You can’t stand still and move forward at the same time. That’s why “take action” is the advice I offer women whenever they ask me a question regarding what they should do about a problem or respond to a challenge. Here are a few examples:
Question: My husband isn’t paying child support so I need to earn more money, I was thinking about going back to school and completing my degree. I am afraid I won’t be accepted in the program I want to pursue. What should should I do?
Answer: Take action.
Question: Now that I am separated, I need to sell our house and downsize into a smaller space. I have consulted with three realtors over the past seven months. They all suggested I paint the interior, clean the carpets and complete a long list of other things before signing a listing agreement. I have no idea where to begin, what should I do?
Answer: Take action.
Question: The lawyer I hired to handle my divorce is not returning my calls. And when I have sat down to speak with her, she doesn’t really answer my questions. I feel like she has taken my husband’s side and sometimes it sounds like she is trying to convince me that I should accept his settlement offers although I have tried to make it clear to her that I don’t feel they are in my best interest. I keep paying her money although my gut is telling me that I am going to regret not firing her. What should I do?
Answer: Take action.
Question: My ex and I have been fighting like cat and dogs. I thought the fights would stop once we separated. Since most of the stuff we fight about are really just petty disagreements about unresolved stuff from our marriage, I really think we could benefit from going to counseling. I don’t want to get back with him I just want to stop fighting and start focusing on raising our kids. I have been putting off suggesting counseling because I don’t know how he will react. What should I do?
Answer: Take action.
Question: I met a really great guy at my daughter’s soccer game. He and his ex-wife divorced three years ago. He seems really nice and I am convinced he is interested in going out with me. One of the other moms told me that he asked about whether or not she thought I would be open to going out on a date. That was about two months and he still has not asked me. Part of me wants to ask him out to lunch and part of me thinks I should just wait for him to make a move. What should I do?
Answer: Take action.
This is an excerpt from What to Divorce When You are Divorcing. Download a copy here:
What to Divorce When You are Divorcing
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