The Magic Words

Dear Client:

Imagine waking up one morning and having to move heaven and earth to arrive on time at the courthouse for a hearing that has already been postponed more times than you can count, only to be told by your attorney that the case has been once again continued to a later date because the judge had a prior commitment that the clerk overlooked when she scheduled your case.

Or consider this: Imagine your attorney sitting you down and explaining that you made a critical mistake in moving out of the house you shared with your spouse without first getting copies of all of your financial documentation because now it appears that your spouse may have destroyed information that would have been helpful to your case.

If you have not yet experienced moments like these in your real life experience with the legal system, trust me; you will experience many of them before the process is over.

Fortunately, instantly transforming a moment that is saturated with frustration and futility into one that is filled with calm and acceptance is possible.

I didn’t say it was easy. But if you are willing to use the magic words when confronted by things that are beyond your control to change, you will have the power to make magic happen.

What are the magic words?

It is what it is.

Write them down. Commit them to memory. Repeat them as often as needed.

It is what it is.

This simple acknowledgement is an expression of your recognition and acceptance of things that are beyond your control. And your willingness to embrace these things can make things like harmony, peace and contentment appear out of thin air.

It is what it is.

There will be many occasions when this is the best explanation and most appropriate response to what is happening with your case. Your lawyer may attempt to offer you a more elaborate and eloquent rationale for the inevitable ebbs you will encounter. He probably assumes your retainer fee entitles you to a more extensive explanation or perhaps, he simply may not be familiar with the magic words.

It is what is.  Once you begin uttering this sentiment, the benefits of doing so will soon begin to resonate throughout your life.

This is an excerpt from Letters to a New Divorce Client.  Download a copy below:
Letters to a New Divorce Client


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