Should I Divorce My Spouse?

This is not a question you should ask your lawyer. This is a question you may need to ask your spouse. This a question you may need to ask your spiritual advisor. This is a question you may need to ask your mother or your best friend.

This is a question you need to ask yourself.

You can tell your lawyer the circumstances of your break-up: Who did what, who didn’t do what, who left, who stayed, who said what and what was left unsaid.

And based on the circumstances or the facts that you share with your lawyer she can assess your situation. She can tell you what your rights and obligations are, what you can expect if you go to court, and the consequences of your decisions to leave the marriage. She can share with you what she expects will happen if you go to court.

Here’s what your lawyer can’t do:

Assuming there is no domestic violence, she can’t tell you whether you should end your marriage. That is personal decision. You should consult with the same people about ending your marriage that you consulted when you decided to get married: your parents, your friends, your spiritual advisor.

You are an adult and no one has the right to tell you what you should do. You have to trust your own instincts about whether or not you should exercise your right to end your marriage.

You have to decide whether you can live with the financial consequences of ending your marriage or staying in your marriage. You have to decide whether you can live with the emotional consequences of ending your marriage or staying in your marriage. You have to decide whether you can live with coming home to an empty house every night or whether you can live with coming home to a raving lunatic.

Only you can answer the question as to what hurts most: the thought of living with your spouse or the thought of living without your spouse.

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