Your experience in the legal system may be unpleasant. It may be stressful and it may be one of the most difficult experiences in your life.
However, it is only one thing.
While you are in the throes of it, it may feel all encompassing. It may appear to take up every cubic inch of your life. It may be the first thing you think about when you wake up in the morning. It may occupy every nook and cranny of your thoughts and the empty crevices in every conversation. It may be the last thing you think about before you go to bed each night.
In your mind there may be no real demarcation between where your life begins and the case ends.
But, the case is not your life.
It may feel like everything. But it is only one thing.
Regardless of how important the issue you may be litigating, the case is just a case. Your life is your life.
No matter what may be at stake in your case, it is not bigger than your life.
It is just one component of your life. It is just one chapter in your story.
Always remember, and never forget that, it is just one thing.
The case is not more important than your health. Each day you must juggle lots of balls: legal issues, work and family matters and whatever other commitments you have. These balls are all made of rubber. If you drop one or more of them they tend to be resilient. They are likely to bounce back. However, the ball that represents your health is made of a precious glass. If you drop it, there is chance that it will not bounce back. It could even shatter to the point that it is beyond repair.
If you lose sight of the fact that the case is just one thing, you will neglect your health. You will not take time to manage stress through eating well and exercise. Instead of sleeping at night, you will toss and turn and worry about the outcome of the case.
Your health is your life. It is what allows you to attend to all of the other things that are important to you.
Think about it, if you win the case, and are awarded custody of the kids, possession of the marital home, and lots of money but have neglected your health, then what have you really won? It will be a shallow victory if you are too sick to enjoy the kids, relax in the home or spend the money.
This is an excerpt from Letters to a New Divorce Client. Download an excerpt below:
Letters to a New Divorce Client
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