- Whenever the judge talks, you listen. Even if the judge interrupts you, stop talking immediately and listen.
- Only one person can talk at a time. The judge can only listen to one person at a time, don’t interrupt your spouse when it’s his or her turn. And as difficult as it may be, stop talking if your spouse interrupts you.
- Talk to the judge, not to your spouse. Try to pretend that your spouse isn’t there. Remember, you are there to convince the judge that you should have certain things. You don’t need to convince your spouse.
- Stick to the subject. Many people can’t resist the temptation to get off the track and start telling the judge all the problems with their marriage over the past twenty years. This just wastes time, and aggravates the judge. So stick to the subject, and answer the judge’s questions simply and to the point.
- Keep calm. Judges like things to go smoothly in their courtroom. They don’t like shouting, name calling, crying, or other displays of emotion. Generally, judges don’t like family law cases because they get too emotionally charged. So give your judge a pleasant surprise by keeping calm and focusing on the issues.
- Show respect for your spouse. Even if you don’t respect your spouse, and like you do. All you have to do is refer to your spouse as “Mr. Smith” or “Ms. Smith” (using his or her correct name, of course).Photo Credit: Visual Hunt
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