What to Divorce When You are Divorcing: Your False Friends

I don’t have to tell you the incredible difference your real friends make in your life.   And your divorce will cast a powerful spotlight on who your real friends are.  When the rough winds of life blow, they provide a firm place to stand and a soft place to fall.  And when you are not at your best, they have a way of gently reminding you that whatever is inevitably right about you can fix whatever may appear to be wrong with you.

Your real friends support and celebrate your efforts to move on after your marriage ends.  Your false friends, on the other hand, are only interested in pursuing their own agenda.   Here are a few examples of who your false friends are:

People who are only interested in your problems.

People who are only interested in your pain.

People who make you feel worse after spending time with them.

People who encourage you to confront your ex/spouse’s new girlfriend.

People who offer to accompany to confront your ex/spouse’s new girlfriend.

People who offer to accompany you to confront your ex/spouse’s new girlfriend.

People who encourage you to confront your ex/spouse about stuff that happened during the marriage.

People who don’t support you in moving on.

People who are miserable and want your company.

People who want to feel sorry for you.

People who want you to feel sorry for them.

People who encourage you to keep your kid’s away from their father.

People who talk about nothing but other people.

People who only point out your faults.

People who remind you of the reasons you should stay stuck.

People who allow you to go on and on about the problems in your marriage.

People who talk about their other friends behind their backs.

People who never have anything nice to say about anyone.

People who never have anything positive to say about anything.

People who enjoy conflict, confrontation and confusion.

 

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