There will likely be a long list of things you will need to do in order to move on after your divorce. These things might include forgiving your ex/spouse for the things he did to cause your marriage to break-down or forgiving yourself for the things you didn’t do to save your marriage.
Perhaps your list will be comprised of more practical tasks like learning how to create a monthly budget or how to improve your credit rating.
There is a wrong way to approach this list. And it goes something like this: Divide the things you need to do into two categories – “Things You Can Do” and “Things You Can’t Do.”
Put the things you don’t feel any resistance to doing or that you have successfully done in the past into the first category and put the things you feel uncomfortable doing or don’t believe you can do into the second category. Then devote half of your time to working on the items on your “Can Do” list and the other half of your time whining and worrying about the items on your “Can’t Do” list.
Here is a much better approach:
Divide the items you need to do into these two categories — “Things You Can Do” and “Things You Can Do With Prayer, Patience, Practice and Persistence.”
Place the things you feel comfortable doing and have succeeded doing in the past in the first category and put everything else in the second category.
Then constantly remind yourself there is nothing you can’t do and then work without ceasing on whatever needs to be done.
This is an excerpt from What to Divorce When You are Divorcing. Download a copy below:
What to Divorce When You are Divorcing
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