There is one thing all women who fail to move on after their marriage ends have in common. They are all really good at making excuses for why they have not or cannot do what needs to be done to move forward. What they fail to realize is that their excuses are only excuses. The following is a three-step plan you can use to get rid of the excuses and get on with your life.
Step One: Review the following quotations:
People spend too much time finding other people to blame, too much energy finding excuses for not being what they are capable of being, and not enough energy putting themselves on the line, growing out of the past, and getting on with their lives. — J. Michael Straczynski
An excuse becomes an obstacle in your journey to success when it is made in place of your best effort or when it is used as the object of the blame. — Bo Bennett
Nothing is impossible; there are ways that lead to everything, and if we had sufficient will we should always have sufficient means. It is often merely for an excuse that we say things are impossible. — Francois de La Rochefoucauld
Using the power of decision gives you the capacity to get past any excuse to change any and every part of your life in an instant. — Tony Robbins
Difficulty is the excuse history never accepts. — Edward R. Murrow
We excuse our sloth under the pretext of difficulty. — Quintilian
The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The gift is yours – it is an amazing journey – and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins. ~Bob Moawad
Excuses are the nails used to build a house of failure. ~Don Wilder and Bill Rechin
No one ever excused his way to success. — Dave Del Dotto
Excuses are the tools with which persons with no purpose in view build for themselves great monuments of nothing. — Steven Grayhm
If you don’t want to do something, one excuse is as good as another. — Yiddish Proverb
There is no such thing as a list of reasons. There is either one sufficient reason or a list of excuses. — Robert Brault
He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else. — Benjamin Franklin
The person who really wants to do something finds a way; the other person finds an excuse. — Author Unknown
Step Two: Keeping the insight from the above quotations in mind, reflect on the following questions:
Have you made a habit of making excuses?
What are some of the excuses you routinely use for not doing what you need to do?
Are you aware that your excuses are only excuses?
Who are some of the people you blame for why you are where you are?
What do you get out of blaming others?
How can you take more responsibility for why you are where you are?
Step Three: Create specific strategies you can do to start kicking your excuse habit.
For example, if you have been using lack of support from family and friends as an excuse for not moving forward after your marriage ends, then joining a support group for divorced women might be the strategy you use to eradicate this excuse.
This is an excerpt from What to Divorce When You Are Divorcing. Download a copy below:
What to Divorce When You are Divorcing
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